As Your Wedding Photographer, I Don’t Care About These Things
- Karlee Ihde
- Dec 31, 2025
- 3 min read
Your wedding day isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence.
It’s about the way your hands shake before the ceremony, the laugh you didn’t expect, the quiet moment you steal together when no one’s watching.
My role isn’t to add pressure. It’s to take it away—so you can breathe, be present, and trust that your story is being captured exactly as it deserves.
Wedding planning comes with a lot of opinions. Everyone seems to have a “right” way to do things—and it can get overwhelming fast.
So let me clear something up: As your wedding photographer, there are a lot of things I don’t care about. And honestly? That’s a good thing.
What I do care about is how your day feels—and helping it feel calm, joyful, and stress-free.
Here’s what I mean:
I don’t care whether or not you do a first look
There’s no wrong choice here. Some couples want that quiet moment together before the ceremony, others want the anticipation of seeing each other walk down the aisle—and both are beautiful.
What I care about: helping you decide what fits your relationship and building a timeline that feels relaxed no matter what you choose.
I don’t care if your family photo list is chaotic
Typed, handwritten, saved in your Notes app at midnight—I’ve seen it all.
What I care about: stepping in, taking control, keeping things efficient, and making sure you’re not the one rounding up relatives while everyone else waits.
I don’t care if your timeline runs behind
Wedding days are fluid. Things happen.
What I care about: adapting quickly, protecting your time together, and making sure delays don’t turn into stress—or show up in your photos.
I don’t care if you feel awkward in front of the camera
Most couples feel this way, and that’s completely normal.
What I care about: guiding you naturally, giving you direction that feels easy, and creating moments that feel like you, not stiff poses.
I don’t care what the weather does
Wind, clouds, heat, or unexpected rain—none of it scares me.
What I care about: finding flattering light, adjusting plans calmly, and making sure the day still feels magical no matter the forecast.
I don’t care if something goes “wrong”
A bustle breaks. A boutonniere disappears. Someone forgets their shoes.
What I care about: staying calm, helping fix what I can, and making sure small hiccups don’t steal your joy.
I don’t care if your wedding looks like Pinterest
Your day doesn’t need to follow trends or check boxes.
What I care about: documenting your story exactly as it unfolds—honestly, beautifully, and authentically.
I don’t care if you need reminders to slow down
Wedding days fly by faster than anyone expects.
What I care about: gently reminding you to breathe, take a moment together, and actually feel the day you planned.
I don’t care if you’re worried about “getting every photo”
It’s easy to feel pressure to capture everything.
What I care about: focusing on what truly matters—your people, your emotions, and the moments you’ll want to remember years from now.
I care about you enjoying your day!
At the end of it all, my job isn’t just to take photos. It’s to help your wedding day feel easier.
When you feel calm, supported, and present—the photos follow naturally.
